I first learned this with golf.
You have to "throw" the club head at the ball.
Then I learned it with drumming: you have to "throw" the sticks at the drum head.
Now I'm learning it with motorcycle riding: you have to "throw" the bike at tight turns.
Throwing takes confidence.
Because you think you'll lose control.
But after a while you realise that you have to "lose control" to gain control.
A bit like life really:
"If you love it, let it go. If it comes back it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was."